Monday, February 24, 2014

FOOD CRACKS

As we get older, it seems that we get to look forward each day to something in with bodies that doesn't work like it did.   Pains in new spots, a little more hearing loss, eyes are not what they used to be, and, yet another wrinkle.  Stomachs stick out a little more, we sit down and find ourselves asleep.  Well, we were eating dinner and Kathy told Gary that he had food in the corners of his mouth.  What!   Gary said, I don't have food in the corners of my mouth!   He wipped his face, and, Kathy says, still there.  Well, what a big problem.  Gary had to whip real hard to get his face clean.   Like other old age problems, you learn to deal.  So now, Gary grins real hard and it kind of drops out.  How disgusting.   Another thing to check.   Kathy calls them food cracks.   Here some pictures.




Gary's first lesson.

We had a conference with a mission district.  And, for the Saturday priesthood session, not many people showed up.  So, the president had them come to another meeting two weeks later, and, me and the other counselor had to handle it without him.    Gary got no guidance on what to say and do.  It was a very tense two week.  No one speaks English.  It is all Spanish.   He got a lesson together and had his Spanish checked, and changed a lot, and the time came.  There were about 30 People and Gary started first.  He did an interactive lesson with the White board and he asked lots of questions.  The lesson went about 30 min.   It was all a blessing from Heavenly Father, it went well.  He did not understand the answers to questions, but, the spirit was there and the class understood the lesson.   Any success here was strictly The Lord, not Gary.   And that is how we get by!

The Lord has people that are ready to listen
Two of our elders were walking on a street and a lady came by.  They said hello and started to talk.  It turns out, she is a less active member.  They managed to get an appoint to visit her in her house.  At the appointment, they met her husband and son, both not members.  Well, they taught them and very soon the father and son were baptized and they are all attending church!   We know that people are prepared to listen to the missionaries, our job as missionaries, is to find therm.  We do that by living our lives so the spirit is with us, and talking to everybody.





Monday, February 17, 2014

VALINTINES

Talks in Spanish
Believe it or not we did not die!  That is the feeling we had when we drove to this mult-zone conference.  Kathy was supposed to talk for 10 minutes and Gary for 30  minutes.  Which is a very long time in English let alone Spanish.  So, the meeting had several activities and an the EXAM.  Every month our so the president gives an exam to the missioneries on the Preach My Gospel book.  It is real serious.  The missionaries have to spread out and Kathy and Gary patrol the area looking for cheaters.  After, their tests are graded and the missioneries that scored the top 10 highest, are recognized.   Well, the test went a little long.  So, when our talks were supposed to start, and the presidents wife was to talk for 30 minutes, the president tells Kathy to cut hers down to 5 minutes, Gary to 20, and his wife to 20.  His wife gave the first talk, she went on and on and she went right by the 20 minute mark, marched over 25, by now the president was getting a little fidgety.  Kathy noticed that he wrote a little not about "tiempo", time, that he was going to slip to his wife.  After she roared through 30, he just gave up.  She went To 45 minutos without hesitation and finished her complete talk!!   We feel the president was real wise in not saying anything!  Kathy got up, she did a great jobs, she painted pictures to go along with her story, and she took 10 minutes,   Gary's talk went real well and he took exactly 20 minutes.   He's always been a bit of a "brown noser".
Here is a shot of elder heiner, he was at the meeting with us,  a good friend and a very excellent missionary.


VALINTINES 
We were exhausted after our multi-zone meeting, the drive home is hard and we were emotionally drained.  However, the next day, we went working with the missionaries in a little branch that took a long dangerous drive to get to.   But, as we have said before, there is nothing like working with the missionaries.  They are amazing!  They talked to a little kid up on a hill (everything is a hill, there is not a flat spot anywhere.) and we followed him to his home, very very humble home.  The mom came out, and the missionaries started right in to teach her, she could not read, but, we entertained her with a hymn, they taught a brief lesson and ask if she would be baptized and attend church.  She said yes. (They always ask about baptism on the first meeting, this allows them to get quick info about their other religious commitments) we had a closing hymn and they had her say a prayer.  She did.  We had a hard ride home, almost stuck the car on the edge of a cliff, but made it.   Now we were really exhausted, and, had nightmares about falling off a cliff.   So, Thursday we attended the zone meetings, and handed out valentines hearts with a quote from elder cook about loving everyone written on them (Kathy made 40 of these the day before.)  then, we thought we might have Thursday afternoon and Friday to recuperate, but, we get a call from a district leader asking if we would have a valentines breakfast the next day for the zone, ( they said they would buy the food, as if that is going to happen, they have very little money) We spent the whole afternoon buying stuff and preparing for the next day.  Well, we had a great time with this party, we made tons of food and the elders ate it all, it took up most of the day.

Here is a shot of the missionaries in the mountains.













Here are some shots of valentines 







Little miracles 
We always have little very real miracles happen, usually after we suffer lots of buffeting from the other side,

Saturday we got a call from a zone that was preparing for a Book of Mormon activity.  They planned to show a movie and could not get a computer to work.  The program was to start at 4pm.  We ran over our computer and got the video going but no sound.  No matter what we did we could not get sound. We were out of ideas.  There was a plug that we used with no success.  An elder picked up another cable, that by all sense would not work.  Plugged it in, and there was the sound.

Sunday, we attended church at a branch way up in the mountains. To get there, we pass by another branch.  On the way back, we had no reason to stop, but Gary's was really hot and needed to remove his coat.  We stopped by this other branch, as Gary was taking his coat off, up came the branch president.   There was a lady that just got ready to attend the temple for the first time but needed an interview with Gary.  We got the interview done, and the lady was very happy.

A young man was being taught by the missionaries.  They were teaching him with some members present.  The boy could not commit no matter what the missionaries could do.  Finally, a member told the boy to open the book ok Mormon and point at a scripture.  If that scripture encouraged him to get baptized then would he commit.  He said yes.   He opened the book and pointed to a scripture, alma 32:16, the perfect answer.  He was baptized the next day.

Cookies
For Christmas, Kathy made chocolate chip cookes for the missioneries in all three zones.  We didn't here much about rather they liked the cookies or not.   Well, today, we got a call from a zone leader, elder tenney, who is being changed to another area this week.  He went on and on that he could not possibly leave without some of Kathy's cookies, he would pay for the ingridience, (sure), she made the cookies and we meet them in the next town and gave them the cookies.  Here are some shots










Monday, February 10, 2014

GUATEMALAN TIME

Guatemalan time
We have a ward that is functioning like the Book of Mormon rich - poor cycle.    The rich people sit on one side of the chapel and the poor on the other.  And, they don't get along.  The members are not to helpful for the missionaries.   Our missioneries brought some members along to visit an investigator.  During the lesson the missionaries asked the members to give their testimonies.  They said they didn't have testimoniesl.  However, it is important to say that in the same stake most wards are wonderful and this ward has some good people.  Well, our mission president decided to have a meeting with the members to encourage them to work with the missioneries.   The missionaries arranged with more than 50 people to come to the ward at 6 pm to meet with the mission president.  We all arrived a little before 6.  The president had a video presentation and the zone leaders set up the projector.  We waited.  At about 6:30, no one had come.  Kathy and Gary took the zone leaders to an appointment and then returned.  The president was loading up his stuff in his car.  One person showed up.  He and the ward missioneries were on their way to visit the bishop of the ward.  Wow, we thought, we were glade we we not invited to that meeting.   The next day we were with the president.  Of course we wanted to know what happened.   Well...  The president had a nice visit with the bishop, they talked about obedience.  Then, the president and the missionaries were returning home and passed by the chapel.  They noticed a light on in the chapel.  The had shut the building down.  So, they went in to see what was going on.  There were more that 30 people waiting for the president.  About a hour and a half late.  The president has really a cool head.  He brought in his projector and they had a wonderful meeting.

Parasites
Gary got parasites again.  He got tested and emailed the results to the mission nursed. Their response was:  these are not bad parasites they just cause constant diarrhea.   Just take some pepto and forget about it!!

Gary is finally warm
Gary was so very cold.  We mentioned it to our kids, and they sent us a little heater.  Also, we were walking along a street and there was a little old man that made suits.   We have these thick Mexican blankets that we buy to keep the missionaries warm.  We have several.  Gary drew a picture for this suit-maker of a poncho like coat made out of one of these blankets.  It would fit over his clothes to keep him warm while he worked in the house.  Well a week later we picked up the poncho.  It cost about $20.  We also got Gary a nice hat.  Here is a picture of Gary with his keep-warm stuff.  Unfortunately the weather is warming up.


Times up
It seems the president has decided that we have had enough time to learn Spanish.   There is a conference of 4 zones tomorrow and Kathy and Gary are giving a 30 minute talk.
Gary has a presentation to give to all the priesthood members of a mission district.  And, he is giving a testimony in two mission district conferences.  We did our 30 minute talk with help from a few of our friends.
If you are having a hard time going to sleep, we have include an English version of Gary's talk.
 

30 years ago, my friend served a mission.
A little while ago, we were talking.
He said:  I do not feel good about my mission.   
I did not do my best.
Why, after 20 years, did my friend feel bad about his mission.
Because, our mission experience will be with us forever.

There is a story about a man, called Melvin, that did his best.
Melvin suffered a bad accident while in the military.
He was in the hospital when his sergeant visited him.
The sergeant asked how he was doing.
Melvin said, very bad.  I have lost my left arm and I may lose my left leg.
The sergeant said, Soldier, you have your right arm and you may not lose your left leg.
Do the best you can with what you have.

Melvin got out of the hospital and searched for a job.
no one would hire him.
Finally, a neighbor told him of a rich man that owned pineapple farms.
Melvin visited the office.  He talked to many people but no one would hire him.
He waited for many hours to talk to the boss.
The boss finally agreed  to talk to him.
Melvin managed  to convince the boss to hire him.
The boss called in his supervisor.
He told  the supervisor to hire melvin.
The supervisor did not like melvin and gave hime a very hard job.
He had melvin drive a load of pineapples to Rio Blanco.
He knew that melvin would fail and go away.
The job was very hard for melvin, he had to brace the steering wheel with his shoulder while shifting.  But, Melvin arrived at Rio Blanco and sold all the pineapples. 
The boss called in the supervisor and said that he liked melvin and had great plans for him.  But, he wanted to understand if melvin could pass the blue vase test.
The boss told the supervisor not to make the test to hard.
But, the supervisor made the test really hard.

Melvin was staying at the ….. hotel in San Marcos.
The boss called melvin and said to Melvin:  
I am going to visit a friend in the capital.  I am leaving at 8pm.
I want to give her a very special blue vase.
Would you buy this blue vase and bring it to me before I leave?
Melvin was very tired, but, he said: yes I will buy the vase and bring it to you.
The Boss said: get the address from the supervisor.
Melvin called the supervisor and got the address.  It was a small store in San Pedro, called Mathews heavenly blessings.
Of course, the supervisor gave Melvin an incorrect address and name.
Melvin searched for the store for a long time but could not find it.
After asking many people, he finally found a store called Marks heavenly blessing.
But this is not the correct name.  
He searched more.  
Than he thought that if the supervisor gave him the wrong address, he would also give me the wrong name.  
Being a religious man, he figured out that Mark was the book following Mathew, so, that must be the store.
The store was closed and locked.  
He had no idea what to do.
A man in a ferreteria next to the store asked melvin what was wrong.
Melvin told him,
The man went in his store and brought out a cutting tool.  
He said to Melvin, your only hope is to cut the lock and take the vase.  
You can pay for it tomorrow.  
Melvin took the tool, and, he almost used it to cut the lock.
But, he said, I am not going to steel  this vase.  That is wrong.

Melvin asked all the neighbors where the owner lived.  
Finally, he found the owners house.  
He begged the owner to open his shop so that Melvin could buy the vase.  The owner finally agreed and opened the shop.  
Melvin said he wanted to buy it.  
The owner said that it cost Q1000.  
Melvin did not have that much money.
(both the man in the ferreteria and owner had been paid by the supervisor to make it really hard for melvin)
Melvin noticed that is was almost 9pm.  
But, he did not give up.
He took off the tie that was made of material that had been in his family for many generations.
He asked the owner if he would hold the tie until tomorrow and he would pay for the vase tomorrow.
The owner said OK, and Melvin had the vase.
He quickly ran to a friends house.  
The friend was a microbus driver and drove between San Pedro and the Capital every day.
The friend agreed to drive him to the capital as fast as he could.

Luckily, the boss has stopped in Xela for a hamburger at McDonalds.  
The microbus caught up with the boss.
Melvin grabbed vase and ran to the bosses car.
He was going to give the vase to the boss, but, he dropped it and it shattered.
Melvin was so upset and apologized to the boss.
The boss said:  melvin, I do not care about the vase.  
I wanted to see if you would do you best.  
Melvin was upset and said:  
I went through all of this and it was just a game.
The boss apologized and said, I have a very good job for you because of what you have done.
You are going to be the new supervisor!

Melvin did his best with what he had and got a great job.

What does the story of Melvin have to do with missionary work?

We know that Heavenly Father has prepared people to hear our message.
We should be able to sleep in, eat breakfast, go to the ward house, fill the font, and wait for the people to show up.  
Investigators would come in to be baptized, they would already be in white clothes, they would have found the book of mormon on the internet and have read it.
is all we would have to do is to do a short interview, fill out the form, and baptize them.

Why doesn't things work like this.
Well, there might be a problem with the agency of the investigators.
But, more importantly, we would not have learned the lessons we need to know to live with heavenly father.  
We would not have been able to do our best.

Heavenly Father prepares people to hear our message.  
They may not know that they are prepared until they feel our spirit.  
Our job is to do our best to find them.  
This means, we do all we can, righteously, to find these people.  
We must be prepared so the spirit will be with us.  
Then we talk to everyone.  
We will eventually find the prepared person.

My son served a mission in France, in two years, after lots of hard work, he baptized three people.   
These were the days when young men and women were sent on missions without much preparation.  
Some were sent out because they were doing so badly that the bishop sent them out hoping that they would repent.
So, my son had lots of challenges with missionaries that did not want to be on a mission.
He had several bike wrecks.
He had a stomach pain so they took his appendix out which probably did not need to be removed.
After finishing his mission he wondered what was the worth of it all.
Twenty years later, he returned to France with his wife.  One of his converts was active in the church and his whole family was active.
So the one baptism turned out to bring many into the church.  
Possibly a whole generation of people.

Our work is worth it.
We need to do our best with what we have.  
We do not want to have bad feelings about our mission for the rest of our life.
The Lord will make us strong,
Amos 17:27 in the book of Mormon reads:
“And if men come unto me I will show them their weakness.  I give unto men weakness that they may be humble.  And my grace is sufficient for all men that humble themselves before me; for if they humble themselves before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become strong unto them”

I know that our work is Gods work.
I know that Heavenly Father and his son Jesus Christ know us, love us and care for us.
I know that Joseph Smith was the prophet if the restoration,
I know that President Monson is our prophet for today.
I know the book of mormon is true and is the word of God
I love this church
I love you
and I love this mission
In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen



Monday, February 3, 2014

KATHY'S BIRTHDAY


KATHY'S BIRTHDAY
About the beginning of this past week we both came down with the flue.  Kathy got it worse than Gary.   However besides this, Kathy became really grouchy and everything was Gary's fault.  Any suggestion or decision Gary made was not only wrong but terribly wrong.   It was a very miserably few days. Saturday came and it all became clear.  Kathy was turning a certain age on Sunday, and, she was not at all happy about being this age.  So Gary understood and thought to himself, what is a husband good for if he can't absorb his wife's frustration.  Well, Sunday came and Kathy dressed up for church, and, she looked beautiful.   At least 20 years younger than she is.  We visited a tiny branch further in the mountains, and here is a shot of her and some of the ladies. The little lady in the middle probably knew Columbus personally.

DISOBIEDIENCE
About a year ago, a missionary here in our area did some very bad things.  The church members here were and still are furious.  This missionaries disobedience has made it really hard for the current missionaries. The missionaries are constantly scrutinized, .  Our missionaries have worked hard to prove themselves and have made progress.   However, the disobedient missionary after his mission returned here and His presence is obviously disturbing.  
Well, this situation is somewhat of a set back.   We were reflecting on how we handle bad turns of events or bad things that happen that are not our fault.  We feel that these situations bring up the very core of our beliefs: a sure hope that things will get better.  Joseph smith suffered a tremendous set back when he was put in the Liberty jail.  But, this situation resulted in one of the most important scriptures of all,  D & C 121.    From this scripture we are assured that The Lord knows of our situations and cares for us deaply.  With that knowledge, we can move forward with assurity that, if we do our part, The Lord will pull us through.


Sunday, January 26, 2014

A HAPPY MARRIAGE FOR 50 YEARS

Little battles
We have been generally happily married for 50 years.    We were wondering what is the reason that we are still together and enjoying each other.   Well, one reason is our daily battles!   Each day, for some reason, we start the day with a mini argument, or, more like a debate.   We disagree on a lot of little things.   Are we going to deliver the Book of Mormon, that we prepared with a picture of us and a testimony, to an investigator today or tomorrow.   Are we going to walk to the market or try to find a parking place.   When is Gary going to get the car washed.   Getting Kathy out of bed, ... And so on.  We are both strong willed is part of the problem.   And, Kathy gets board very fast.  For example, we find a good restaurant and Gary wants to return, but, Kathy will say "we have been there to much lets go some place else".   If we didn't have these little battles, Kathy would have been board with Gary long ago and dumped him.

The cleaning lady problem
We are gone almost all day so we have a single mom that needs the money, clean our house once a week.  We have a wall cupboard that is sort of a food pantry.   To look at it, one would say "what a mess" but, Kathy knows exactly where everything is.   When the cleaning comes, she carefully organizes the entire cupboard.  When Kathy gets home, she gets really upset and complains about the cleaning lady for hours. She puts everything back where she wants it.  Well, without saying a word to each other about the cupboard, the cleaning lady and Kathy have communicated somehow and have reached a compromise.   The cupboard is now slightly organized and slightly messy.

Here is the cupboard

The primary presentation
As we mentioned before, we are attending these meetings called hermanmientos.   We attended one this last Wednesday and it was presented by the primary.  We sat in the front row so we could here better.   The program began and the kids were delightful.   Then the speakers started.  A girl about 10 gave a talk about a scripture, she read the scripture, we could not understand a thing.  Then she stopped and pointed directly at Gary and asked him to explain this scripture!!  Everyone looked at Gary as he sat there and stammered.  How embarrassing, finally he said, sorry only English.   So, the girl ask another person, and, copying Gary, he said "only english".  This went on for a while all at Gary's expense.  Believe it or not, another little girl got up and read a story and the same thing happened again!  Well, the next day we attended another one of these meetings, but, this time we sat in the back with hoodies on.

Norea
We went with the missioneries in an area that is not doing well at all for baptisms.   We attended the ward for this area some time ago and it was very depressing.  Very few members and just a "down" attitude.  We knocked on the door of one less active and no one answered the door.  We went to another house of an inactive lady, and, she was home.  The four of us went into her house and sat down.  She told us that she taught kindergarten and she had been preparing lessons.  The missionaries taught for a while, then Gary, asked her why she doesn't come to church.  And, she bust into trears, Kathy hugged her and she cried for some time,  she began to tell her story:  her family had major problems and neither the bishop or the stake president came to help.  She was very upset with them and quit coming to church.  We talked to her a while about putting her faith only in the Savior and she would not be led wrong.  Kathy asked her if she wanted a blessing and Gary gave her a blessing in Spanish.  We asked the elders to take her to church and to ask the bishop to not confront her for a few Sundays.  She agreed.   By the way, she has gone to the Temple.  We do not know the status of her husband other than there is something major wrong.  We said goodby.  While walking, the elders shared with us what a blessing this meeting was.  They had never found her home, she is always working, and, we got a commitment for her to come to church.   We all felt that Heavenly Father had led us to this meeting to help this wonderful lady. 

Gary finally got warm



Monday, January 20, 2014

CAFFEINE FREE

Hermanamiento Reunion
Most of the wards and branches here have this meeting.   It occurs on a week night and its purpose is for fellowshipping and gospel education.   An organization or a family is assigned to do the meeting.  And, there are refreshments after.   We have been going to this meeting Tuesday through Friday, attending a different ward and branch each night.  On Wednesday we attended this meeting at the Alameda Ward.  It was presented by the Young Mens Priest Quorum.   One of the priests did the gospel education part.  We were so impressed, he was well prepared, used the white board, and asked question of the group, and we learned a lot.  At the completion of his lesson, all of the priests came to the front and each one of them stated from memory an Articles of Faith, there were 12 Priests and the Young Mens President to complete the 13.   Then, we had hot drinks and rolls.  (we always have hot drinks because it is very cold).   We were so impressed.  The other meeting we attended were also good.  But, we thought this meeting was special.

Gary in Tights,
Gary was so cold in our house he was miserable.   He had three coats on but his legs were freezing in his dress pants.  So, Kathy brought out her spandex tights, 3/4 length.  He has worn them for a few days now and has been quite warm.

Elder Soares
Elder Soares is a member of the presidency of the Seventy.   He came to a city here in our mission to talk to all the missionaries.   For us, it is a long hard drive to get there and back.  So, we were complaining a bit about driving all that way and sitting for two hours not understanding anything.  But, we were obedient to the invite by the president and we drove to the meeting.  Well, it turns out that Elder Soares is from Brazil.  His wife gave a great talk in english with a Spanish translator.  We enjoyed it very much.  Then Elder Soares came to the stand.  He can speak Portuguese, French, English, and, is learning Spanish.   He gave his whole two hour talk in clear and not to fast Spanish and we understood the whole talk.  Another one of those repenting experiences.
He told us his story of becoming an LDS member.  It gave a lot of hope to all of us.  He was converted my Missionaries in his little branch that consisted of four families.   Now, there are two stakes in place of his branch and he is a President of the Seventy.



The Restoration
We of course are always struggling with the language and have experienced some very humbling times, but, when we are with an investigator  result:[] spirit takes over.  We went with the missionaries to visit a middle aged man.  His son of 22 has cancer and is in treatment and it is very serious.  The missionaries talked to him and then they turned to us, and, we went through the entire story of the restoration from the primitive church to now.  It was amazing.  We could never repeat it, but, it was a great joy that for a few moments were a tool in the hands of the Lord.

Caffeine Free
Our drive back from Elder Soares meeting was long and hard.  We stopped at a store and there on the shelf was diet Dr. Pepper.  Our favorite drink. And we have never seen it here before.  Now, we have tried very hard not to have caffeine drinks since there is this mission rule that no one can drink diet Coke.  But, we were tired and we had a long way to go so we bought the Dr. Pepper.  We had gotten some food to eat along the way, and, after we finished to food, we were both so excited to drink the Dr. Pepper.  Well, we opened the can and it did not taste to good so Kathy finally put on her glasses, which she did not have on when she bought it, and read the label.  It was caffeine free!!  Saved from breaking the rules by Kathy not being able to see up close!!!

Some pictures of the Sisters in our area at our house making a cake for the Elders for P Day









Monday, January 13, 2014

ADDENDUM

THE PRESIDENTS CAR
we were shopping today and in the store we met the Stake President and his family.  Really nice people.   After a short conversation, we went on shopping and they went out the door.  We checked out and carried our bags to the back of the car.   Gary clicked the remote to unlock the car and opened the back door. As Gary was opening the door he commented to Kathy about how dirty the car was.  Gary set a package on the floor of the car as the door was almost opened.  We looked up and there was the presidents family looking at us very strangly.   They have the identical car to ours, but, more dirty.  How embarrassing!   We carefully after a thousand apologies, shut the door and got into our car.   To top It off, we determined hours later that we left a bag of a groceries in their car!